Sometimes the job is harder at home (revisited) . . .

This is one of my most popular posts from several months ago, but it warrants a rethink by all of us.

I don’t care how poor a man is; if he has family, he’s rich.  ~Dan Wilcox and Thad Mumford, “Identity Crisis,” M*A*S*H

The role of business person, whether it be small business owner, middle manager or senior executive, is difficult in so many ways.  Sometimes just getting to work is a pain, with traffic or crowded smelly subways.  And then there are customer complaints, employee issues, quality problems, financial headaches and funding, not to mention government regulations and of course taxes!  It is a tough role, but an important one because business and those who work every day drive our economy forward and help build a better future for our children and grandchildren.

But to be honest, sometimes the job is harder at home than at work.  Have you ever found the situation at home so overwhelming that you just couldn’t wait to get to work for some peace and quiet?  I know it sounds odd, but parenting, leadership and role modelling at home is probably more difficult, and definitely more important than at work.

The difficult bit comes from the fact that while you may be tired after a day at work, that really doesn’t matter to the family.  They need you, NOW! They need your time, your attention, your listening, your understanding, your advice, your coaching, your humour and your wisdom. There is no time off from the responsibilities of mother, father, husband, wife, partner, friend, brother or sister.  Work is often long hours.  Family is 27/7/365.  But you do get paid overtime; in love, respect, pride and knowing that you are building the future.

Work is easy. At  work we have processes, best practices, check lists, support staff,manuals, training and a whole host of support.  At home it’s different.  Where’s the training manual to help a young son who gets bullied at school and who’s self-esteem is at rock bottom?Where is the best practice for a daughter who totally messed up during that important piano recital?  Where’s the video on how to deal with a frustrated spouse or partner who is feeling neglected or not important?

There is one place to look for solutions to both work and home challenges.

Follow your heart!

Tight Lines . . .

John R Childress

E | john@johnrchildress.com

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About johnrchildress

John Childress is currently Visiting Professor in Strategy and Culture at IE Business School in Madrid and a pioneer in the field of strategy execution, culture change, executive leadership and organization effectiveness, author of several books and numerous articles on leadership, an effective public speaker and workshop facilitator for Boards and senior executive teams. In 1978 John co-founded The Senn-Delaney Leadership Consulting Group, the first international consulting firm to focus exclusively on culture change, leadership development and senior team alignment. Between 1978 and 2000 he served as its President and CEO and guided the international expansion of the company. His work with senior leadership teams has included companies in crisis (GPU Nuclear – owner of the Three Mile Island Nuclear Plants following the accident), deregulated industries (natural gas pipelines, telecommunications and the breakup of The Bell Telephone Companies), mergers and acquisitions and classic business turnaround scenarios with global organizations from the Fortune 500 and FTSE 250 ranks. He has designed and conducted consulting engagements in the US, UK, Europe, Middle East, Africa, China and Asia. Currently John is an independent advisor to CEO’s, Boards, management teams and organisations on strategy execution, corporate culture, leadership team effectiveness, business performance and executive development. John was born in the Cascade Mountains of Oregon and eventually moved to Carmel Highlands, California during most of his business career. John is a Phi Beta Kappa scholar with a BA degree (Magna cum Laude) from the University of California, a Masters Degree from Harvard University and was a PhD candidate at the University of Hawaii before deciding on a career as a business entrepreneur in the mid-70s. In 1968-69 he attended the American University of Beirut and it was there that his interest in cultures, leadership and group dynamics began to take shape. John Childress resides in London and the south of France with his family and is an avid flyfisherman, with recent trips to Alaska, the Amazon River, Tierra del Fuego, and Kamchatka in the far east of Russia. He is a trustee for Young Virtuosi, a foundation to support talented young musicians. You can reach John at john@johnrchildress.com or john.childress@theprincipiagroup.com
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