A Backpack Full of . . .

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Most parents understand the problems of children stuffing their school backpacks with too many books, papers, calculators, pens, rulers and all sorts of stuff. It is painful to watch young children struggling with heavy backpacks, and not good for their posture or health either. My daughter was the same and wound up with chronic back problems that still every once in a while flare up.

The fact is, we can only carry so much around comfortably and effectively.

But I have noticed a much more insidious problem of carrying things around, not physical things, but mental things.

A Fable of the Man and the Rocks

Man carrying large rocks on his backOnce upon a time there was a man.  A normal person, like you or I, going through life, attending to work chores and life chores.  Things that needed to be done. But this man had a very bad habit.  Instead of dealing with each issue at once and getting it over with, he would decide to do it later.  As a result of deciding to “do it later”, after a while the number of “to do” items grew and grew and he became more and more worried about all the things he had to accomplish. And the more he worried, the more depressed he became with his heavy load of things to get done.

And by not acting up each item quickly, some of his “to do’s” were forgotten, resulting in a growing number of problems at work and home. This made him more depressed and ineffective.

Over time he started to believe he was an ineffective person and his self-esteem began to plummet, at which point he began to see himself as “just good enough” instead of “great”.  His dreams of greatness and fulfillment began to fade. More and more he settled for being mediocre. In his own mind the burden of striving to be great was just too heavy and unrealistic.

Then one weekend he was walking in the woods, trying to overcome his depression and feelings of mediocrity, when he  came across a man collecting rocks and putting them on his back. He watched for a while and noticed that the more rocks the man piled up, the more he struggled to walk forward. At one point the pile of rocks was so heavy the man even fell down, and it took excessive effort to stand up again.

Incredulous at this seemingly ridiculous behaviour, he approached the man, scolding him for being so stupid as to carry around such a large number of rocks. “Why don’t you just get rid of all those heavy rocks and make your journey lighter?” he asked.

“Why don’t you?” the man replied, and vanished in a puff of smoke.

Good Habits Build Character and Self-Esteem

Over the course of my life I have tried to learn many lessons about how to lead a rich and fulfilled life and accomplish bigger and bigger goals. And one of my biggest lessons concerns time management and its relation to personal self-esteem. The simple fact is, given the same IQ and same opportunities, the person with high self-esteem enjoys more success than the person with low self-esteem. High self-esteem makes people keep trying. Low self-esteem causes people to not even try, after all, they aren’t good enough.

And self-esteem is not genetic. It’s mental. It’s a product of thought.  And thoughts are self-generated. And one of the mental habits that fosters low self-esteem (and therefore poor results) is not attending to your “to do” list right away, but instead, piling them into your “mental backpack”. And, the more we decide to do later, the heavier the mental burden and sense of inadequacy.

Boston_MarathonTo be honest, for many years I was a world-class procrastinator. I had a huge mental backpack of things I should have done quickly, but instead carried them around. It was a heavy burden on my self-esteem.  Them, around age 40 my older brother challenged me to complete a marathon.

I had been an occasional runner, but not a committed runner. Well, I took the challenge, read everything I could about training for the grueling 26.2 mile race. I then bought a daily training log, made a 4 month training plan, carried my training plan, log book and running shoes on all my business trips and followed my weekly plan. It would have been easy to put off a training run during the week, especially when travelling, but long distance training, like any other physical and mental activity, can’t be properly accomplished by saving up all the daily “to do” runs and trying to make it all up on the weekend. The body adapts slowly, not in large, irregular spurts. To make a long story short, I not only completed my first marathon, The Big Sur Marathon near Carmel, California, but went on to run another 15 over the next several years.

But most importantly, I developed a habit of “do it now” that has been a great advantage for the rest of my business and personal life.

Want to reverse the “do it later”, store it in the backpack trend?  Want to grow your self-esteem, your confidence, and your performance? Don’t carry around a mental backpack full of “do it later” items. Build the habit of “do it now”. And it’s very simple.

How much time does it take to write a thank you note after an interview? An email takes about 45 seconds. A handwritten note not much longer. Done! Gone! Out of the “backpack” and surprisingly, you feel better about yourself! Do it now and watch your self-esteem and success soar!

Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence. Inaction is not only the result, but the cause, of fear. Do it now!  ~Norman Vincent Peale

 Written and Posted by: John R. Childress

Senior Executive Advisor on Leadership, Culture and Strategy Execution Issues,
Business Author and Advisor to CEOs
Visiting Professor, IE Business School, Madrid

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About johnrchildress

John Childress is currently Visiting Professor in Strategy and Culture at IE Business School in Madrid and a pioneer in the field of strategy execution, culture change, executive leadership and organization effectiveness, author of several books and numerous articles on leadership, an effective public speaker and workshop facilitator for Boards and senior executive teams. In 1978 John co-founded The Senn-Delaney Leadership Consulting Group, the first international consulting firm to focus exclusively on culture change, leadership development and senior team alignment. Between 1978 and 2000 he served as its President and CEO and guided the international expansion of the company. His work with senior leadership teams has included companies in crisis (GPU Nuclear – owner of the Three Mile Island Nuclear Plants following the accident), deregulated industries (natural gas pipelines, telecommunications and the breakup of The Bell Telephone Companies), mergers and acquisitions and classic business turnaround scenarios with global organizations from the Fortune 500 and FTSE 250 ranks. He has designed and conducted consulting engagements in the US, UK, Europe, Middle East, Africa, China and Asia. Currently John is an independent advisor to CEO’s, Boards, management teams and organisations on strategy execution, corporate culture, leadership team effectiveness, business performance and executive development. John was born in the Cascade Mountains of Oregon and eventually moved to Carmel Highlands, California during most of his business career. John is a Phi Beta Kappa scholar with a BA degree (Magna cum Laude) from the University of California, a Masters Degree from Harvard University and was a PhD candidate at the University of Hawaii before deciding on a career as a business entrepreneur in the mid-70s. In 1968-69 he attended the American University of Beirut and it was there that his interest in cultures, leadership and group dynamics began to take shape. John Childress resides in London and the south of France with his family and is an avid flyfisherman, with recent trips to Alaska, the Amazon River, Tierra del Fuego, and Kamchatka in the far east of Russia. He is a trustee for Young Virtuosi, a foundation to support talented young musicians. You can reach John at john@johnrchildress.com or john.childress@theprincipiagroup.com
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